I've realized thus far in my life the battle has always been ME vs. ME.
I’ve constantly chased after approval, validation, forgiveness, patience and love from everyone else. But, I’ve rarely taken the time to give myself any of those things.
When you’re a committed achiever the majority of the time is spent focusing on what’s next instead of being present. You lose the ability to enjoy yourself or important moments, because you’re in a constant state of self judgment operating mainly out of fear. Fear of not being enough, fear of not being seen, fear of missing out, fear of failing and what people will think.
Constantly moving will have you miss not only important moments of celebration and appreciation, but you’ll also miss lessons if you’re not present; which will continue to repeat themselves. This happens in relationships, fitness, work, and spiritually.
I’ve come to realize that most external obstacles are really a reflection of what's going internally. We interpret most things in the world based on who we are on the inside. These external obstacles are room for growth if we allow ourselves the opportunity to really look at them. That requires you to pull yourself back and look at situations and moments from a different view. Oftentimes we’re in such a rush to get past pain, discomfort or to the next achievement that we make emotional decisions and either set ourselves back or end up repeating the same situation over and over again.
Since we never take the time to take a step back and get clear we’ll constantly look for medicine to heal our wounds or numb us from dealing with our reality in the wrong places. Sometimes these things are good things, but not the right things. Things like our marriage, fitness events, graduating school, continuing education, church and list can go on and on, but long term we’re not facing ourselves and what's really deep rooted.
Let’s face it, doing the work on ourselves is a scary thing. It requires faith and DEEP work. It requires you to get centered with yourself and reflect on things you’ve buried deep, to isolate yourself and deal with things like guilt, shame and anger. It requires you to trust in a higher power; understanding that you’re not in control, but developing the belief that in this life you can and are capable of becoming something worthy and that you’re proud of when you rest your head at night.
Life is an adventure (a journey) and what comes with that is a bunch of unknowns and change. When we constantly try to control the outcome we leave no room for the universe to bless us. Unless you completely give up; all “failure” is temporary defeat. There’s a lesson in every setback and most of the time the breakthrough or growth doesn’t happen for us because we don’t face the unknown and discomfort long enough.
Real power isn’t control, it's in having faith in yourself and your ability to learn, grow and become!
Coach Wendell
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